This weekend, I attended a coed baby shower. Since I have been a guest at many baby showers in the past sans the couple concept, I figured the same rules would apply. I would mingle with the mom-to-be, meet other women, eat delicious pregnancy friendly foods and give a good luck kiss goodbye to the glowing hostess. No drama, no stress. However, I didn’t take into account that bringing my other half would be a game changer. From not scaring the mom about giving birth to keeping his father angst to himself, I realized once the night ended, maybe I should have educated my husband on the formalities at these once traditional ladies only functions.
For anyone who is invited to a couple’s shower, here’s a list of some Dos and Don’ts when celebrating with the expecting parents.
- Do tell the couple how happy you are for them and emphasize the positives about being a mom and dad.
- Do offer to help the mom-to-be with anything she needs. Don’t let your husband ask the baby daddy what he was thinking.
- Don’t steal their baby thunder. Feel free to talk about your kids briefly, but don’t brag about how great they are or bash how bad they’ve become. The party is not therapy for you.
- Don’t tell the expecting parents in your most frightening father voice, “Sleep now because you will never sleep again.”
- Do offer some parental guidance with tips and techniques that have worked for you, but don’t expect them to remotely understand what you are talking about it. They’re still reeling from the no sleep warning from your date.
- Don’t let your partner point at a pregnant woman who is carrying her third child and say, “Better you than me.”